Today I am going to mail off the documents for our home study. We have had them a very long time and it feels really good to get them out.
They include:
a) background checks for every place we have lived in for the last 5 years (a hem that’s 3 different states and about 5 different houses/apartments)
b) 15 page-questionnaire about how we are going to raise our child (lots of technology maybe a pet robot). It had really great questions on it like why we were adopting, what religion we are gonna rase our kid, our relationships with our family etc. They asked about how our lives were gonna change after the kid was here. Andy’s answer was the best “less HBO more Nickelodeon”. Yup. That sums it up.
c) Medical clearance from our doctor- which included a HIV, Hepatitis, TB and Syphilis test. I told Andy that I hoped to finally pass these tests and he reminded me that these are the ones that I hope to actually fail. Thankfully we flunked with flying colors- we don’t have any communicable diseases.
d) Finanicial disclosure form
e) Job verification (for those of us who have one)
f) and other random docs (directions to our house, copies of our marriage license and birth certificates etc.).
We also had to get 4 letters of recommendations from our friends. Our friend Marie’s daughter decided to put in her own letter to the adoption agency which totally made me cry my eyes out because it was so sweet. After all that is in (the longest part is the background checks and I think ours are especially complicated). We get assigned a social worker and begin our parenting classes. We meet with the social worker once each individually and then she comes over and makes sure our house is kid safe. Which it should be by then. Fortunately we live in a house that once had kids living in it- so we have some stuff already in place. It feels weird to kid proof a house when the idea of having a kid can still be a year off. I am happy to do it- but it does seem sort of strange. I would feel more comfortable kid proofing closer to when the kid comes home. It feels like bad mojimbo to get it done so early in the process. But I digress… nothing like sending out a giant package of paperwork to make you feel like you accomplished a lot during the day!
This makes me so happy; I can only imagine how it makes you feel to have all that done.
That letter from Madeline is just the sweetest thing!!! Couldn’t think of any better recommendation. On to the next step!!!!
So glad everything is off! What a huge step! Congrats!
Forgot to add that we are a Holt family, and just found your blog : ) We also live in Durham, NC! small world!
That’s what I figured 🙂
I misssss Durham so much! How long have you been there? I really really loved loved living there. We still have a house there and someday hope to return to it. We were right on Club and Washington! How did you end up there? So many questions- thanks for checking out my blog! Your son is ADORABLE
haha! We have been in Durham for 2 years (but I grew up in Raleigh, and Cameron and I met at NC State). We really love the Durham community. We are off Cole Mill.
We were playing with Samuel today right near your house (at the renovated Oval Park playground).
Congrats again on getting your HS stuff off, every little step brings you closer to your little one(s)!!!!
Thats such crazyness- you don’t perchance have a puppy. Some friends of mine were at that park and they met a woman with an adopted baby from Ethiopia and a new puppy (this was a few months ago). That would make my head fall off!
Have a fun weekend!
Lisa
We have a dog (but not a puppy). And Sam has only been home for 2 months, so it probably wasn’t us, but it is still crazy!
One more blog comment (sorry)…just thought you’d like my husband’s blog post back from when we started our adoption journey (almost a year ago) about why we love Durham!
http://babyboltes.blogspot.com/2009/04/glad-to-call-durham-home.html
Oh my god, that letter made me cry too.