So today we found out we are number 5 on the adoption wait list! This is really really good and exciting news. It literally means we can “Get the Call” any freaking time. This is when they tell you who your kid is going to be! Since we said we were open to a boy or girl from 0-12 months at the time of referral- it can really be anything. We will have a photo, a name, history and medical records. This is a huge moment because we will see our kids face for the first time. I just want to know whom this little person will be- I have been really good. I have no patience as a person, and I have been really patient – but yeah I am ready. I was staring at my cell phone, willing it to ring today.
I keep thinking about all the scenarios of us getting the call. Will it be next week when we are visiting my dad and step mom in Vegas? Problematic – dad hates it when I scream – and I am gonna scream. Will it be when I am at a temp job? Oy vey I will have to bail or at least lose my ever-so thin veil of professionalism. Will it be over the week of Christmas when our dear friends are visiting? Will it be (probably because it will be the most inconvenient) when Andy is en route somewhere and on an airplane, unreachable and I will have to sit with this info by myself. Or will we just be at home, hanging out; thus turning a totally uneventful and unmemorable day into an extremely eventful and memorable one.
Will we get to hop on a plane the next day and whisk our kid away? Nope, of course not. Bloody sucks. A few weeks after the referral our adoption agency will give us a court date (usually about 2 months away) and that’s when we get to go and meet our kid for the first time. This is a new process and I don’t think we will get to spend all that much time with our kid. It’s probably not a great idea to bond with this little person only to leave again, breaking both of our hearts. We have some friends who are on the first trip now. Sometime after our first trip (like 6-12) weeks we will get to pick our kiddo up and he/she will be ours forever.
Adoption is a long-ass process and it ain’t for the faint of heart.