It’s been a while since I blogged. Stuff is moving along very slowly. So much of this adoption stuff is out of our hands- that I am practicing the art of accepctiance and patients. Neither have been my strong suit. Andy says I have to be careful because I have so little that I shouldn’t use it all up now. Here is an update of what’s been going on:
We completed the home visit part of our home study. When you think about it- it sounds like the most stressful part of this process. The idea that a social worker is coming to your house and checking to make sure its safe for a kid. I also spent a lot of time in my own brain obsessive over our interior design choices, our dogs behavior, thinking about cleaver hiding places for Andy’s bourbon collection and generally getting myself into a thither.
For the record I REALLY love our social worker. She is so mellow and unflappable. She has been working in international adoption for 20 years and has a daughter that she adopted for Korea. Her daughter works at the Apple Store and K (our SW) and Andy totally hit it off. I knew in my heart of a thousand hearts that she really wasn’t going to judge us on our quirky art collection or that Bella is a um, close talker.
Really the home study went great. She plopped down on the sofa. Georgia and Bella were totally mellow and plopped down beside and fell asleep while she asked us questions. Andy had a meeting so really when I showed her around the house- it was more like giving a friend a tour. Easy like Sunday Morning!
Here is a photo of Georgia all blissed out next to our Social Worker. I swear that woman is like the DOG and People Whisperer- cause I was totally stressed until she got there and then I was like ahhhh. I also got to knit during the interview.
My mom also lives with us and has to go through some of the security clearances that we do. She has to get fingerprinted by the State of Oregon and by the Feds. She did hers a while ago- and they came back because she um, doesn’t have any finger prints! Apparently- as you get older they get worn off- this pretty common, but kind of sucky nonetheless. It was fairly amusing to go with her to get fingerprinted because they used all kinds of tricks to get them to pop up. I have been a totally moisturizing Nazi and prior to our appointment- I kept sticking lotion in her face demanding that she moisturize! They actually put tobasco sauce on her fingertips to try to get them to pop up. Nope. We have three sets that we sent off with a letter saying “this is as good as its going to get peeps.” Last week (about 5 weeks after we sent them in) we got a letter saying they accepted the finger prints! Hurrah
We are waiting for the finalized version of our home study report (they needed Mom’s clearance before they could send it to us). Once we get it- we take a mini road trop to Salem (the State Capital) where we get everything State Certified (level above Notarized) then our stuff goes to the Holt Eugene office and we OFFICIALLY GET ON THE WAIT LIST. Can you image- after all these months- we aren’t “officially waiting”. Oy vey. Apparently there are around 40 families in front of us. Some of them are waiting for older kids, siblings, etc. We can expect probably a 4-5 month wait until we even find out who our kid will be. Nonetheless- a lot of the adoption folks really celebrate when they get on the wait list because it’s a major milestone in the adoption process. We are soooooooo freaking close! I just want to hurry up and wait.
2 thoughts on “Stuff is Inching Along”
so is the Wait list kinda of the Halfway-ish Milestone?
or just the Top of the first hill on a roller coaster?
and the Quote of the day “Bella is a um, close talker”
Yeah- that’s a great way of looking at it. About half way. Until now- we had a bit of control over the situation- filling out paperwork, parenting classes etc. This is the part where we just waiiiiitttt. But about halfway there- is a good mile stone!