We have been home almost 3 weeks with our wee girl. Things are progressing nicely. The bonding thing is going better then I could have expected. The one consistency in Davy’s life was that she experienced love- so it is easy for her to accept it and give it. I am not kidding myself that our attaching is “done”, but it is going better then expected. She smiles when she sees us. She looks for us across the room. She is throwing tantrums. All good signs. We are also attaching to her. I am not going to lie when I say its harder then I thought. I think it’s better to be honest about it. People come back from adoption and refuse to admit how hard it can really be. We have waited, longed, sobbed for this little being for so long- that we hate to admit that its hard. But guess what? All major life changes are hard! These little beings come to us as mostly formed human beings, with their own quirks and personalities. They aren’t blank slates. We are all figuring each other out. It’s a fun/exhausting puzzle.
We have been taking Davy out more. We have met friends, gone for dinner, play dates and to the park. It has been great. Andy and I are not the “stay at home” kind of people so its good to finally bring her a long. She has been great. One of the things that I like most about our girl- and ironically the thing I was most worried about- is that she is a little shy. It takes her a while to warm up to people- to show them her crinkly nosed smile. I like that she has to suss people out. I like that she is secure enough not to be needy.
This week we went on a play date with Sophia Zimmerman. Sophia is Davy’s buddy from her care center in Durame. Actually her best buddy. Sophia’s parents met Davy before we did. Their court trip was about a month before ours. Sophia wasn’t warming up to Toby (her dad), so the nannies brought Davy out to make Sophia jealous.It totally worked and Sophia warmed right up to her papa. The nannies couldn’t believe that these little girls would grow up together since they did everything together. They were besties. I love that they knew each other before they even knew us. So this week we went to Forest Grove to see Sophia. Did they remember each other? I don’t know. All I DO know is that they saw each other- Sophia immediately ripped the binky out of Davy’s mouth and Davy hit her. So maybe they did. There was something familiar and primal about that little interaction.
Also Davy has been spending oodles of time with my mom. Davy is mom’s first grandchild and I think its love at first sight for those too. Mom and Davy make quite the pair and she is SUCH a proud grandma. I love watching them together.
Finally- the thing that has been hardest is that I haveen’t had much of a creative outlet since we got home. I have seriously knit a half of hat. I did make Davy a few nifty little things (now that we are on a “nap” schedule.) I say “nap” because it is just that a “nap”. She is usually down for 45 minutes. I did manage to whip out a few little headbands and a little neck hanky that catches her copious amount of drool. She is wearing that in the photo with Sophia. It feels really really good to make stuff and Davy is quite the little fashionista.
So far week 2.5 has been really really fun.