Monthly Archives: January 2013

Toddler Logic


So this week we were at our weekly trip to the Playground Gym, or as I like to call it “land of aggressive boys”. This was our last week in that particular class. We have changed classes, I am excited about this because Davy gets to be in class with her buddy Max.

So one of the mean boys, actually the prototype mean boy pulled on Davy’s beads. Davy is SO proud of her beads- she loves them. Davy was totally freaked out and was literally cowering from him. I tapped him on the back and gave him my best angry mom face. DON’T TOUCH MY KID. His equally shithead grandmother was AWAL.

After class I had the first of many many conversations about how she gets to protect her body. How its totally okay to say “no” to people who are poking her or pulling on her hair. It’s her body and she owns it. She gets to say what happens to it. I know this is a sophisticated conversation for a 2- year old, but it’s better to start now.

She totally got the gist of it because the next day I was changing her diaper and she was wiggling around. I said “Davy sit still so I can change this”. She said “No Mommy, its MY body, No Diaper”.



2013- Meh


So far 2013 has been off to a mediocre start. I am trying to shake the feeling that the whole year is just going to be cursed, but right now if feels like this gloominess is creeping its way into my psyche.

Two weeks ago, i got into a car accident. We are fine, my car isn’t. It’s okay. Cars are meant to take the provable bullet for us, but it has made me weary. Here is what happened. A few nights before the accident Davy and I were at the dinner table. We always clink our glasses together and say “cheers”. This random time I said l’chaim (to life). Davy copied my, but to my total horror she said it like a non-Jew. She said l’CHI um. Not with the guttural “cha” sound that is so prevalent in Yiddish pronunciation.
Don’t know what it sounds like? Listen to this?

Well I needed to correct that behavior before her GRANDPARENTS found out. We spent some time making that guttural ccchhhhhhaaa sound, until she got it. A few days later we were in the car. She was having a snack and started practicing the Cccchhhhhaa sound. Which incidentally also is the sound most people make when they are chocking. Consequently, I looked backwards when she made the sound and well. bam. Totally hit the guy in front of me and trashed my car. Airbags went off and everything. A pretty big accident. The good news is now Davy says a perfect l’chaim.

Also our poor Bella is having an extreme grief reaction to the loss of Georgia. Even though they were never very close, they were sisters and Bella has never been a lone dog. While my heart goes out to my deeply neurotic and sensitive pooch her behavior is a little um, annoying. Basically she is back to pooping in the house EVERY time we leave her. She steals food from the countertops. She also has been tearing up Davy’s toys and our pillows. None of this is really new, but she is definitely regressing into past behavior. I feel terrible for her. She has gotten a lot of extras love and attention, but its still difficult. We have tried putting a Thundershirt on her and are hopping she will get better soon. We do eventually want another dog, but aren’t’ really ready yet. Poor poor dear.

This last week Andy was out of town and Davy got super sick. She was throwing up for hours and hours. My mom and I took her to the ER because I was afraid she was getting dehydrated. They gave her some anti nauseous medication and 20 minutes later she was dancing to Yo Gabba Gabba videos on my ipad. It was terrifying and also well, really really gross. Trying to get your two year old to understand the concept of a ‘puke bowl” was kinda lost on her.

Finally on Friday I slipped on ice and fell down my front stairs. Davy with with me, but just fell down, not down stairs. I got it all (which is good). I was greeted by the woman who cleans my house. I was sitting on the front step crying my eyes out with exhaustion and frustration. I was truly glad for her warmth and hugs.

So yeah, that’s a lot of January 14th right?

This is My Family

We had our family photos done by the amazing Posy Quaterman.We used some of them for our holiday cards. There were too many to choose from. Really amazing and magical. Also the whole thing only took an hour and a half. I have been wanting Posy to take our family photo since I first saw her work and well before we even knew Davy was going to be Davy. I just wanted to be ONE of those families that show up in her blog. I think she captured us so perfectly- except we look pretty good in every photo!




















Gender Gap

We have been going to the Playground Gym since Davy was a year old. It’s a great place and has definitely helped with her physical development. She loves the teachers and we have made some good buddies while we have been there. Every season the class dynamics change because big kids get moved up, people schedules change or other folks just drop out.

So today was the first day that we came back. Out of the class there were 10 boys and two girls. One being the older sister of a younger kid who semi participated and the other being Davy. For me, three and four year old boys are kind of the enemy. They are big and rambunctious and usually don’t pay a lot of attention to two year old girls. Davy was trampled twice. A mom comes with both of her kids and one is much older then the class allows. He creates a little bit of a problem because he is HUGE and really isn’t paying much attention to what’s going on around him. He bonked her pretty hard. Hard enough that I had to remove her because she was crying so hard. It was totally an accident, but I think in a class that is suppose to max out at 3 year olds, its inappropriate for him to participate. The teachers are awesome and are totally on top of it, but still. Stuff happens. After Davy calmed down, I encouraged her to join in again. She literally got pushed out of the way by two other little boys which cause another melt down.

I made some comment about how todays class is totally filled with crazy boy energy. The teachers heard me and did a girl only round of activities, but at that point Davy was totally over it. She cried and didn’t participate at all. She usually loves that class. Also she is a pretty tough cookie. She usually doesn’t have these kinds of melt downs and she can get in there with the best of them. I just think the energy of the class today was a little overwhelming.

However it does give me a bit of concern, only because I am starting to see the differences in how boys and girls are approached so young. There is a grandma in the class (who I can’t stand) she looked at Davy and said “You better toughen up girl”. I resisted to punch her and say “You better make sure your kids doesn’t become a giant douche bag”. But I digress. The question is, should I expect her to emulate their aggression or should I expect them to be more sensitive to her needs? I know what the answer is but it kind of bums me out.



I did this last year. Though I would make a thing out of it. Really I am mostly excited about the books I read.

1. what did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?
Saw Mt. Rushmore, drove through Yellowstone Park. Wadded in a river with a Buffalo. Heard my daughter use the word “Shart”

2.did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I never remember my resolutions. I pretty much break them the second. This year’s resolution is just to have a quiet and peaceful year. To live our lives in the moment and remember to breath

did anyone close to you give birth? Actually yeah, my friend Allison had a baby boy, Oskar and my friend Marie is due any second

4. did anyone close to you die? Yes, our Sweet Georgia Brown

5. what countries did you visit? Nowhere as exotic as last year. We didn’t make it out of the states, but we did take a long road trip. I think rural western Montana might count as another country

what would you like to have in 2013 that you lacked in 2012? It has been a really good year. I have everything I want this year. It has been quiet and uneventful. Busy. Maybe more time to craft…

7. what date from 2012 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? December 23, 2012 the night we had to say goodbye to Sweet Georgia Brown. She has been with us for almost 18 years.

8. what was your biggest achievement of the year? Remaining an almost sane parent to a toddler. NOT having peanut butter all over my cloths everyday. Only most days.

9. what was your biggest failure? I have to eat better and exercise more.
10. did you suffer illness or injury? Nope

11. what was the best thing you bought? Some really expensive heavy duty yarn. I used it to make a sweater. It is warm and well, rather itchy, but really really warm

12. whose behavior merited celebration? My mom, for simply being one of the most loving people I know. Being a grandmother is the job she was meant to do. I always had a great relationship with my grandparents, so its wonderful to see that Davy is having the same experience.

14. where did most of your money go? Feeding, clothing, entertaining Davy Beach and yarn. oh and fabric. yeah that too.

15. what did you get really, really, really excited about? My brother in law bought me a really fancy schmancy set of knitting needles for Christmas. I love them. Is that kinda lame?

16. what song(s) will always remind you of 2011? Anything by Pete Krebs and the Portland Playboys. A country western band we see bi-weekly with Davy.

17. compared to this time last year, are you:
happier or sadder? happier

richer or poorer? My life is rich, happy and complete

18. what do you wish you’d done more of? Nothin. I did everything I really wanted to do, maybe traveled more

what do you wish you’d done less of? Worried less about parenting. Every stage of Davy’s life has had some many challenges and blessings. I need to remember that most of everything is just a “phase”

20. how will you be spending christmas? We spent Christmas at home, quiet and beautiful

21. where did you begin the year; and where will you end it? We began 2012 with our dear friends Ari and Anne and ended it with them. Hope we get to do it again next year and the year after and the year after

22. did you fall in love in 2011? You betcha

23. how many one-night stands? Oh pllleeeezzzzzeee

24. what was your favorite TV program? Boardwalk Empire, Justified, Sons of Anarchy, Downton Abby, Survivor, Miranda, The League

25. do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? Hate? nope

26.what was the best book you read? Such great books this year. The Orphan Master’s son, A Thousand Lives, Jesus Land, The Devil of Nanking, Wild, Here Come’s Everybody, Yes Chef

27. what was your greatest musical discovery? Pete Krebs and the Portland Playboys. Love them

28. what did you want and get? Indeed

29. what did you want and not get? nope

30.what was your favorite film of this year? We saw a bunch but nothing really stands out. I saw a movie on HBO called Beginners with Ewan McGregor. I loved it.

31. what did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I turned 41, we drove to a state park in Washington and spent the day by a river. It was cold but beautiful.

32. what one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? More time to the day. Longer naps
how would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011? I have been wearing a lot of my handknitted sweaters this year. I usually save them for special days, but that’s just dumb.

34. what kept you sane? Friends, family, knitting, quilting, good meals
which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? no time to fancy anyone

36. what political issue stirred you the most? The election. Gun control

37. who did you miss? My grandpa and grandma, Georgia

38. who was the best new person you met? I have met a couple new parents from Davy’s preschool. They are great and its the beginning of some new friendships. That makes me happy. It’s good to find parents who have similar values and spunky kids.

39.tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011: This too shall pass so enjoy every minute

40. quote a song lyric that sums up your year: no idea, um Call Me Maybe?

Holiday Photo Dump

Christmas feels like a million years ago. I haven’t blogged since we put Georgia to sleep, so I am going to do a quick photo dump.

We had a big party

our neighbors found our tree topper hilariously terrifying

it was chaos

Three Jews built a gingerbread house



Christmas Eve Came (I have no idea why Davy wasn’t wearing a shirt)

She got a train set

We had dinner at the Rooneys and Andy turned GusGus into a babushka

I knit a hideous thing

Then our friends came in and we went wine tasting




I got tipsy

the end